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In the movie Lost in Translation there is a scene in which Bill Murray's character explains that, upon having your first child, "your life as you know it is gone...never to return." The movie has been one of my favorites for years. I just wish that I had known he meant my life.

In early 2010, I gave birth to the world's most perfect child. (Is there a parent who doesn't think his/her child is the world's most perfect?) In addition to being beautiful, he is brilliant and sweet and funny and hands-down the best thing that will ever happen to me. This kid is my entire world. I had somehow suspected through most of my life that he would be, which is why I fought very hard to have him. But about the post-childbirth apocalypse, I had absolutely no clue.

To say things have changed would be misleading. EVERYTHING has changed. Most of it has been good--some not so great--but everything is without a doubt different. And now the world changes once again. My little family and I find ourselves journeying from the big city to beautiful, calm Montana. Will the change be for the better? As with anything, the answer is sometimes "yes," sometimes "no," and always sought with massive quantities of hope. Come with me as I navigate the roads from fast-paced, big-city lawyer to Montana Momhood. Is there a line that can be walked? We'll see. But I can guarantee, at a minimum, it will be an adventurous road trip....

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

The Obligatory Mom Wardrobe

I am thoroughly embarrassed.  I recently overheard my mom commenting on how surprised she is that Chicago lawyers don't...well...dress better.  She wasn't criticizing, really, just commenting on how those of us who modeled our lives after L.A. Law dress more as though we are on Real Housewives of __[insert city here]__.  And we're not talking about their Jimmy Choos.  The embarrassing part, I realized, is that she's right and wrong.  She's mistaken that it's all lawyers.  She's dead-on that it's me.

Perhaps I am using it as an excuse, but my once-decent wardrobe has sadly descended into an array of same-looking momwear.  And not "hot mom with knee-high boots and 4 nannies per child" momwear.  We're talking "sweats every single day or as close to it as possible" momwear.  Which is fully acceptable in the comfort and security of one's own home.  Not so much in a Federal courthouse.

The "acceptable" mom "suit."
Originally published http://www.people.com/, August 6, 2008
What happened to me, dear readers?  Case-in-point:  The other day I got off of work and had on pants and a silk top.  What's the problem, you may ask?  The pants are barely disguised yoga pants and the silk top is a maternity tank that I borrowed from a friend and haven't yet returned because I love it.  I also had on a giant cardigan of a completely unacceptable fabric and color.  While we may debate the propriety of the content of work dress, it's not particularly the clothes that disturb me.  It's my lack of regard for what I have on.  I am ashamed to say that my clothes sit in unwashed piles on my floor, largely because when I do have 5 spare moments to lug them up to the washer, I'd rather stare into the abyss than put effort into one additional thing.  In short, I have given up.


But never fear--there are people in the great abyss of the Internet who can help me and those of us who have given up.  Like you.  Well, and you.  And definitely you--what is that sweater?  Kat and our friends at Corporette (check out http://www.corporette.com/ ), and others like them, can be a source of refuge.  We don't have to make an overhaul--I recommend starting small.  Perhaps exchanging the too-tight suit from 1997 for a nice blazer and skirt?  My point is that we can overcome the stigma together.  It's time to rise up, fellow moms and look-like-a-moms!  There is hope.  At least I hope there's hope.  There's hope, right?

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